#88

About 2 weeks ago, I went on a third date with the long haired guy, and it was confirmed that we have no romantic chemistry whatsoever (we never kissed). We went to Barcade, and it was a nice reminder of how fun that place is. Who wants to play pinball with me sometime?

Since then, I’ve been on two dates with a chemistry teacher. Our first date was a Saturday night dinner, and I accidentally got very drunk—classic me! He was fun (but who isn’t when I’m wasted?) and we kissed at the end. Our second date was last night and he was 30 minutes late because he was playing a board game with friends. [I’m sure you can visualize my facial expression.] He made up for his lateness by monologuing and mansplaining all night, mostly about obscure science topics. On the walk home, he complained about how cold he was, and I told him to grab a cab if he saw one since we were walking in the opposite direction of his apartment. He insisted on walking me all the way home, and I suffered a brief, frigid kiss before running inside alone. Now that I think about it, he was also 20 minutes late to our first date. Needless to say, there will be no third.

Perhaps all the fun ones are currently cuffed, but I just can’t seem to get excited about any guy as of late. There is one new boy on my soccer team that’s very cute and very friendly (specifically to me, I think?), but I’m not sure what to do about it. I recently realized I’m only competent at dating when I already know the guy is interested (i.e., when he matches with me on a dating app), but I am 100% clueless and awkward when it comes to IRL interactions. I can’t flirt, I can’t detect flirting, and I definitely always assume they’re not into me. I feel like this is a life skill I need to develop in 2019, but I have no idea where to start. Please send help.

#87

1. The guy who likes pugs had to last-minute postpone our date (I was drinking with friends and did not mind at all), and I haven’t heard from him since. Woohoo!

2. LBD and I went to see If Beale Street Could Talk on Sunday night, and the adorable romance of the movie made it clear to me that we are nowhere near that level of chemistry. I think he picked up on my lackluster vibes, because I haven’t heard from him since. Shrug!

3. Last week, I went out with a guy with long hair—and I just got back from our second date (I’m a little drunk). I’m usually not into long hair AT ALL, and I’m still not sure if we have any chemistry (we haven’t kissed), but he is super funny and nice. For those of you wondering, his hair is about shoulder length, looks very clean, and is kind of wavy. When I asked if he ever puts it up, he said “man buns are the modern-day mullet.” I died laughing, and couldn’t agree more. Also, we ran into one of my old coworkers, who sat next to us with his friends for the duration of the date.

4. On a slightly more philosophical note, I think I’m not that interested in dating at the moment. The fact that I am in the midst of figuring out my career and trying to make sure I can pay rent (in case you didn’t hear, I quit my job) means I have very little patience for the average bozo. If a guy wants to chase me down and make me fall in love with him, so be it. I’m always happy to meet new people and have fun, but I definitely do not have the time or energy to devote to dissecting texts or wondering if a guy is obsessed with me. If he’s not, he’s an idiot.